A common enough problem me thinks. Here's the situation. After a hard day in the office he/she in your life comes home to the sound of you once again strangling whatever instrument you have been sentenced to learn by the good Lord. Accordian or bodhran if you have been really bad in a previous life. Fiddle if you only committed a few minor sins. You state that you thought it was actually sounding better, and that those rolls will form an integral part of the finished product, to which you get a sarcastic smile at best, and a mouthfull about the dishwasher needing emptying at worst.


What is to be done in a situation like this?. Should we start planning that new patio if you get my drift?

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Divorce. I did. : )

On the other hand i have parrots.. question is who's the worst at yapping..

There's a reason it's called wood-shedding. :P  To be honest, I hate people listening to me practice as much as they probably hate listening to me.  Finding a place where I can have privacy is important to me.

Get your spouse an instrument for Christmas and for 2012 you can both annoy the kids so they want to go to bed at 7.30.

I think having a supportive spouse is important. And an isolated place to practice, especially if you are learning something like the fiddle or pipes.

Strange thing is...my spouse fully supports our kids musical endeavors (one is majoring in music therapy in college, and the other will start in that same major next year).  So she has welcomed the periods of violin screeching and ear-busting-blatts from the trumpet all these years.  But not one iota of patience for my flute playing )-;  So I'm relegated to the walk-in closet at the back of the house when she's home, and I'll sneak a practice out in the family room with high ceiling, wood floor and great acoustics when no one's around.


It is good to hear I am not alone in this boat.  I have future plans (or pipe dream) for including a small "soundproof" practice and recording booth whenever I get around to finishing our basement.

Reminds me of the old story.......


Husband to wife

"What do you want for Christmas?"


Wife to husband

"A divorce"



 "Actually, I was'nt thinking of spending that much"

LOL, Mike. I'm stealing it.

Haha, guys - you are funny!! Here is a possible solution - you encourage your spouse/partner to do something they have been wanting to do for years -some hobby that is, not necessarily divorce (too expensive?) - and give them the space to do it and then you will both feel better about you continuing your practice. 

Ps. it may do your relationship some good though......

Your kinda back to the adult v child learner thing there. Society in general expects kids to be learners and they have the time and space to work through the learning process. Whereas adults are more or less expected to have some proficiency and generally get cut less slack - no wonder so many adult musician learners fall by the wayside..

Easy, just have the kids fed, washed and entertained, with homework done, dinner in the oven, fire lit, floor mopped, kettle on, immersion hot, aforementioned dishwasher emptied, refilled and running, laundry washed, dried, ironed, folded & put away, time arranged to hear how the day went...

..and by that time, practising is about the last thing on your mind due to being totally clapped out ;-)

They say that "love is blind". Perhaps it would be better at times if it were deaf and dumb  as well!  Everytime I used to sit down to practice my accordion I suffered from swollen ankles afterwards.....mostly from having the vacuum cleaner rammed into them!.

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